Should you wait to have sex?

Or is now the right time? Read this article so that you can decide.

Sex is a matter of intense curiosity for those who haven’t had it yet. It serves to enhance the bond between two individuals. So are you mulling the idea of having first time sex with your partner, but are you also racked with doubt? Ask yourself these questions before you proceed –

Does the time feel right? Every serious relationship takes its own time to progress. If you and your partner have deep feelings of love for each other, then you will also share mutual feelings of respect. This means that either partner supports the other’s decision to wait before having first time sex. Or their decision to have it now. If you feel that you should take your relationship to the next level from merely cuddling and kissing, you can try it for sure.

Is there any pressure to do it? The thing to remember before having sex for the first time, is that you can have first time sex only once in your life – you cannot experience it ever again! Sure, you may have another partner in the future, but the first time is a lifelong memory. And so, you must make it as special as you can, without falling prey to peer pressure or insistence from your partner. If you are not ready for it, you should not go ahead with it because what would otherwise be an extraordinary experience would be marred by insecurity and feelings of guilt.

Are you aware of safe sex practices? Most people assume – based on what they read in erotic novels or see in films – that first time sex is a spontaneous, passionate encounter. That may well be true for some people, but a little planning will save you both from embarrassment and a nasty surprise later (such as an unwanted pregnancy or an STD). You may be sure of your health status, but what about your partner? Many people have first time sex after withholding their concerns about whether their partner carries an infection – they don’t want to offend or hurt the other person. Then there are those who want to be as ‘close’ to their partner during sex as possible, and they don’t want a condom to encumber them. But unprotected sex leaves both partners vulnerable to STDs, and the female partner open to an unplanned pregnancy. Be safe – insist on a condom, and don’t proceed if your partner is unwilling to use protection.

Have you discussed it with your partner? You or your partner might be shy to broach the subject, but it is better to discuss the possibility of having sex pretty soon. Be as frank as you want and invite your partner to share their concerns and questions, too. After all, if you are serious about the relationship, you can have a serious discussion on the subject!